Divorce Counseling & Therapy: Best Worksheets & Techniques

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Couples often attend relationship counseling when they are trying to save their marriage.

If they can’t fix the relationship, or one or both partners have nothing left to give, they may decide to go their separate ways.

A divorce may be the last resort and final shared act for couples who no longer wish to stay with one another.

Counseling can help transition couples through this painful process, even when previous therapy has proven unsuccessful (Brown, 2022).

This article explores what clients can expect from divorce counseling and introduces techniques, questions, and worksheets that can help manage the psychological and practical aspects of their separation.

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What Are Divorce Counseling & Therapy?

Even when divorce is the best or only option for a couple, it is likely to be a painful process. Both partners will inevitably experience a mixture of feelings, including upset, emotional loss, regret, anger, and even relief, that may lead to a fraught relationship, potentially including (Brown, 2022):

Support is available, offering hope for couples trying to cope with a tough time in their lives.

Divorce counseling and therapy can help in several ways, including (Schneider, 2020):

Helping Clients Cope With Divorce: 4 Techniques

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Coping with divorce is not easy – for anyone.

There are counseling approaches and techniques that can help make the process more manageable, especially when things get complicated between partners.

Try working through the following points and techniques with your clients (Smith, 2021; Marriage.com, n.d.):

Remember that you are not in control of how the other person feels or acts, but you can choose how to behave and respond. Sometimes taking time out can save you from a hasty response that you may regret.

Before meeting to discuss an important point, take time to think about what you are really hoping for out of the conversation. Note down some points on paper or write them a letter beforehand, explaining what you would like and how the other person’s wellbeing and happiness are equally important.

Showing forgiveness is not easy. It is a process that will take time and effort and yet will create a more positive future. Equally, asking for forgiveness for your wrongdoings (actual or perceived) and showing vulnerability can build trust (Brown, 2015).

Imagining a happier future can help see you through this upsetting time. Take time to visualize how you see your future life in three months, six months, or a year from now. What positives are you looking for? What could life be like in a new physical or emotional setting?

Take these thoughts with you while discussing difficult subjects to remind you that coming to an agreement now will improve your chance of a more settled future.

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